New Year Resolutions...How are they going?

The beginning of the year has come and gone and the new year's resolutions are well into progression...Or are they? What did the start of 2016 mean for you?? New life plans? New goals that you dive into, like a bull at a gate, with every intention to reach the desired destination, which you have endeavoured to reach each new year?

We tell ourselves this time we will make it happen. With motivation and determination we commence our new process of reaching our goals, be they to lose weight, to exercise, to smell the roses more, to create balance in our lives and so on.

And initially we proceed really well, equipped with positive thoughts and serious yearning for our desires....Our intentions are pure and direct …...until our thought world quickly begins to throw in compromises, exceptions and finally excuses. Then we succumb to our old ways, either unintentionally or purposefully, thinking, 'What's the use?'

From there we experience an overwhelming feeling of guilt and failure, and often (what we perceive to be) the problematic behaviour, becomes more intensified than before. We continue to beat ourselves up. We are experts at this!

So then, more often that not, we continue to indulge more deeply into our unwanted behaviour. We now also have a detrimental state of mind, making us think and feel less of ourselves than before. Due to this negative energy we portray, every other relationship in our lives and all tasks we perform is expressed from the seed of our present negative belief, such as we are weak and unworthy. If we have previously attempted to change many times, this feeling of weakness continues to multiply.

 

This process is ridiculously soul harming on so many levels!!

 

Let's face it, life is short. Too short to live in such a negatively tainted way.

Contain your feelings. Yes, you may have not achieved yet what you had intended, but you will try again, and you will succeed when the 'time is right' for you. Avoid sinking into feelings of 'letting people down'. It's not their goal, it's yours. It's your life and your life is a play where you are the main actor. Don't indulge in a feeling of failure, creating a negative aura. Yesterday is gone and today is a new day. You cannot change the past, however you can work towards the future in a positive way with excitement and anticipation, expecting good things to come....and with that energy, I promise you, they will come!

So please, be kind to yourself. Keep trying your best to make the changes you are wanting, but with a little less pressure.... It's ok,...... really : )